Bisexuality

[Kirstie]

Not sure where to post this honestly but since Vicky's forum is the most popular and because I'm curious...

I've been talking to a new guy for a week or so...
And I happened to mention that I'm bisexual (cause I am) and he was wondering why I didn't tell him, etc...

I told him I had a gf once. It lasted a week and we only kissed. I told him I'm attracted to older women but other than a few random things that happened in the past (experimentation type things), I haven't truly had sex with a woman...but of course I want to...

And he said:

Then, you kissed a girl. No big deal. Doing, wanting, and might possibly do things are totally separate things. Until you DO, and actually enjoy it, then you can't know for sure.
Attraction doesn't give preference to sexuality. I can admit and see certain "beauty" in a man that takes care of himself. But there's a far cry between seeing beauty and wanting to suck a dick."

So he basically told me that I don't know that I'm bisexual... Which pissed me off. I get it, it's like saying I'm sure I love anal before actually doing it or something.
But I know my fantasies. I watch girl/girl scenes and it literally does things to me. I can see certain women and practically imagine them naked. I'm sure I could do things with a woman and maybe not necessarily enjoy it (but I doubt it) but that doesn't make me not bisexual if I don't.

He also got thrown off and upset cause I said I truly wanted to be with a woman, as in someday, I'd like to at least have sex with a woman to actually experience it and thought I was wasting his time...which I'm not... And I guess he had a bisexual ex who turned lesbian after him so he was also a bit suspicious cause of that. He also said curiosity doesn't make you both.

It just has me thinking. But maybe you guys have an opinion on it. Is he right in a way?
Is just being attracted to the same sex and having thoughts about them necessarily not make you bisexual? Can you not consider yourself attracted to both unless you have sex with both? Is it okay to label yourself before you've been with both sexes or is that wrong?

Whether or not I haven't had sex with a woman or not, I know my thoughts and what I enjoy. And lately when it comes to sexuality, I don't label myself even though I am "bisexual". I find beauty in both sexes but if it came down to it, my attraction leans over to the male...but the attraction of being with a woman is pretty strong too...

Hope this didn't come out as a confusing thing...

[WalterB]

This whole subject gets so complicated. There are as many answers as there are people. I think the answers to your questions are within yourself. They're whatever you want them to be. If you want to do something, you go out and try it. Then you move forward with that. If you want a guy, you just have to find one that is ok with anything else you want to do.

After all, it's not someone else's life. It's yours. You can't please everyone, so, you got to please yourself. (Ricky Nelson, "Garden Party.")

[Fr33Sprt]

Maybe you should share this on WBJA's site.....

[Kirstie]

Maybe you should share this on WBJA's site.....

I did...no replies...

[WalterB]

You're looking for a guy. Aren't the ladies on Julia's site mainly looking for girls?

[Kirstie]

There's a good mix of girls on the site: straight, lesbian, bisexual. Even a few guys on WbJA.

[stickyvicky]

Here is an interesting quiz! Let's not take it too seriously, but it is fun to do! http://www.allthetests.com/quiz30/quiz/ ... -For-Women
See I love women, I love everything about them, the way they feel, the way they smell, I love having sex with women! But to live with a woman as a partner? Not in your freaking life! lol... they are way too complicated! I feel sorry for you men! hahaha... A "love relationship" with a woman would be way to hard for me, my brain couldn't handle it. But to be best friends and have sex as a benefit, that I can do!

[WalterB]

You see? You have to be best friends in order for it to work.

[Kirstie]

I got 40% for that quiz...saying I may be bisexual or that it's unsure. XD

I totally agree with what Vicky said... I find women so beautiful and I enjoy looking at them but to be in a dedicated relationship with them, I don't think I can do... I want marriage and kids too and it's not that you can't have those with a woman but it's extremely complicated. And I think making a baby the good old fashioned way is so beautiful so a test tube baby wouldn't do it for me lol (unless that was the only way).
So I guess sexually I'm both and romantically, I just tend to want to be with guys!

[LaurenPhillips]

I consider myself bisexual... I love having sex with girls though. I've never been in a relationship with a girl. i think that's a preference.

[Fr33Sprt]

I dont feel need a quiz to tell me Im bisexual...but I took it for the hell of it

I "scored" 40%

Ive always been into girls at a very young age so this is nothing too new to me.

In my experience Ive learned to keep my bisexuality to myself Ive even had some people who I thought that were my friends (from childhood) turn their backs on me so I only disclose this information to a few.

I have quite a few female friends that are lesbian, bisexual & straight & we get along just fine. I swear some people think because you are a bisexual female you're gonna take someone's partner or some shit like that but that an other topic for a later date or never. My point overall its what YOU fell not what others think & say its all YOU hopefully you get to explore that part of you.


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Im Done!

[BoobMonkey]

As a heterosexual guy I am genuinely interested in this topic. I'm a huge porn lover...but I rarely watch anything involving dick...I love everything about women, their bodies and also how they have sex together. If I want to get off it is a lot less likely to happen if some guy's schlong is waving across my screen. Also, while the women in porn are frequently good looking and very often utterly gorgeous, many of the men are repulsively ugly (!). In the past decade there has also been an increase in the amount of aggressive fucking where guys pound away like jackhammers as their female partner appears somewhat distressed. I can't watch that sort of stuff. (I kinda pine for the "good old days" of early Jenna Jameson - era Wicked movies). And the recent experience of Nikki Benz on set, along with the responses to her on twitter, suggests on-set abuse is not an unusual occurrence nowadays.
Anyway, enough of my havering (Scots word for talking nonsense, as sung by the Proclaimers in 500 miles)....since girl-girl scenes are pretty much an essential part of the business in porn, does this mean porn performers are more open to lesbian encounters than the "average woman in the street" or do all women feel an element of physical / sexual attraction to their own sex?

[stickyvicky]

Unfortunately there are female performers in porn who really dont like women but they still shoot girl girl scenes for the paycheck. That really bothers me. I wish that wouldn't happen. But they do it because it is an easy paycheck compared to taking a pounding on your body and turning your pussy into hamburger meat. Girl girl scenes are so much less wear and tear on your body... you can have so many orgasms and so much fun giggling and being silly. Like you are sharing a secret... well that's if the girl really likes other girls. When you shoot with a girl who really doesn't like girls you just end up feeling like a pervert. That's what happens to me, but I say fuck it, I'm gonna get off anyway, it's her problem for being gay-for-pay. I'm not gonna fake it no matter what. So I try to shoot girls that I know really like girls. I always ask them first.

[sugerdaddy]

Thats a great post Vicky, I agree with you. We at my business have ladies come in and want a lady to have a romantic time with. When I check there information they are usually ladies who have had a hard time with some Ass Hole and have a couple of children. Therefore single mothers with kids.

All people need is a relationship where we feel loved and listened to. Some go to Psychologists others come to a Brothel where the ladies will listen to them. This certainly does not make the lesbians or Bi-sexual.

[hotjulie]

I got 40% on it, I know I'm bi. I tried the relationship thing once, hell I don't understand myself let alone some other crazy girl! I'm happy with the way I am, not sure if anyone around me is though

[stickyvicky]

Haha Julie and I are on the same page. Let's just fuck and be friends. Keep it nice and simple... lol...

[Kirstie]

I never truly thought about it before...but I'm complex enough as a woman as it is...I can't imagine dealing with another moody, complex woman... Lol. But, some men aren't any better... *rolls eyes*