No luck in love

[PeterSwede]

A fiew weeks ago i met a young beautiful woman that seemed to have all that I'm looking for in a woman. And for sure she problably was intrested back. I heared from someone that she thought i looked very handsome, nice and all. But when i was gonna ask her out today she said that she soon is going to move from the city we live in, so its no idea to date.
I dont know if it just was something she said like a so called "white lie" just because shes really not that intrested or if she telling the truth.
Its so hard to read womens thoughts if they really are intrested or not.
But Maybe she also thinks that if shes gonna move Maybe its no idea to start date a guy?
Like I said its hard to know the truth. Love is so hard to find. When i Finally found the right one which seemed to be intrested , shes going to move to Another city... How typical is that?

[PeterSwede]

But if she wasnt intrested she problably would say that she already has a boyfriend as a white lie... or?

[George B]

When i Finally found the right one which seemed to be intrested , shes going to move to Another city... How typical is that?

That's tough Peter, but sometimes that's life. Did you still offer to take her out?

[PeterSwede]

Yes i did ask her out. But she said that she was going to move from the city soon so its no Idea for us to date. Im thinking Maybe if we start a relationship it would be a distanse relationship soon if shes gonna move from the city. Guess Thats Why she dont want to start something. Like i said if she wasnt intrested i guess she would do o white lie and say that she already have a boyfriend.

[hennar2017]

PeterSwede. I certainly am no expert at this but did she actually tell you that it wasn't a good idea to date because she was moving or are you just thinking that ?I think the best thing is to ask her what she would like to do. Be open and honest. A long distance relationship isn't that bad if you are talking an hours drive but if it is more then maybe not. Just a thought Peter.

[PeterSwede]

She did say that it was no idea.
The thing is that i was so nervous when i asked her, and then i got dissapointed.
All I can hope is that she will change her mind and go out with me.

Shes problably gonna move to sounthern Sweden. So its not an hour ride. Its a 10 hour ride.

Well at least i know that shes intrested because she is taking care of my granmother as i also do sometimes. And once my granmother told her that I was a really nice man. And she told her from her heart that "Yes he really is"

This case problably sound like a book of Nicholas Sparks.
You know i first met her in an elivator, i didnt know she was taking care of my granmother.
But then when i met her a second time and taking care of my granmother i was like "You, I met you in the elivator?" So i was thinking This might be a fate, so i just had to ask her out.
And Nicholas Sparks books is about fate.

[PeterL22]

Hi Peter,
Like Hennar, I'm no expert, but what she says is good advice.
Now matter how beautiful a woman (or man) is the key thing is if you are right for each other. What do I mean by right? Its difficult to put into words, but you just fit together and you both know it. One of the only ways to find that out is to be honest with each other.
It's also impossible to really guess what someone else means until you have known/lived with them for years - even then you get it wrong.
Part of the honesty thing is to have the courage to say "I really like you, can we go out together?" - or words to that effect. You may get turned down more than once, but that just means its not right (it doesn't mean there is something wrong with you). I honestly believe that we all have someone out there who is our match in life - it just takes some time to find them.
And if you try a few times and it doesn't work - don't give up

[PeterSwede]

I just dont know What to say to her to change her mind, give me a chance. I mean i cant hope. Because obiously This was not a so called white lie. Because i heared the day after that she really was going to move to Another city. I dont want to scare her away by sounding too desperate.

[George B]

I just dont know What to say to her to change her mind, give me a chance. I mean i cant hope. Because obiously This was not a so called white lie. Because i heared the day after that she really was going to move to Another city. I dont want to scare her away by sounding too desperate.

Moving to a city 10 hours away is a considerable relocation, I'm certain she has her reasons to go. You might find yourself in that city eventually, you never know what the future holds.

Stay optimistic.

(I need to follow my own advice)

[PeterSwede]

I problably wouldnt have any problem with relocating if we got together, I'm moveable. The problem is that we would problably need alot of dates before we decide to get together. Guess thats why she (Ruby) thinks its no idea to start dating. Well maybe netdating would work (Cam 2 cam) But its not the same as real dating.

[stickyvicky]

My advice is to move on. There are plenty of others. You will meet someone when you least expect it. When you are not looking, not trying so hard, that's when it happens. Desperation is not attractive to anyone. If you see her just be happy and confident in yourself. Sign up for lots of other activities and have fun. Tell her jokes if you see her. DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR DICK (like you do on here, lol... ) Don't be serious or sad. If she sees you happy and having fun, that is enough to catch her attention and want to be with you. Make them chase you not the other way around. Play hard to get.

[PeterSwede]

I would never ever talk about my dick and at least not when shes Christian origionally from Cyria. I would never talk about my dick all. Except if the girl is sexual and only are looking for sex. I think i learened by my mistake, i use to be too pushy and scare them away. But i have a little more experience now and be more calm. So now when i made my move i will wait for her move, if she really is intrested.

[PeterL22]

Vicky is right - long distance relationships can work, but have to be strong and (I think) established. It may be best to start afresh. Fate may have just decided that Ruby isn't the one for you. However, as I said before, there is someone there for us all.

[hennar2017]

How wise Vicky is! I agree with her except for making them chase you. It should be a mutual attraction and not a chase thing. If you have to chase then it is not worth it. My thoughts!

[PeterSwede]

Sometimes you cant believe fate, or Maybe its hard to believe fate at all. Its just so typical, when you meet the perfect one shes either taken or shes moving to Another place. Well guess i have to forget her.

[hennar2017]

You are probably right Peter Swede. Maybe it is the unattainable that you go after because it makes you feel safe?

[PeterSwede]

Maybe.
Its billions of women out there, But even so its so hard to find the right one

[PeterL22]

Maybe.
Its billions of women out there, But even so its so hard to find the right one

Hennar is right about not making them chase you - but ut is a two way thing. You don't have to do all the finding - remember that there are a lot of ladies out there who may feel the same about not finding the right man.

[PeterSwede]

You find love when you least expect it. If stop searching you find it.

[PeterSwede]

One thing i know. Tinder and Badoo seems to be worthless