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sarajay!
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January 14th, 2010, 2:55 am

This is an excerpt from an email I got recently. I thought it was a question that I get asked somewhat frequently and I'd share it with you.
" Recently, while doing some internet reading, I read an interview in which you participated. I began to think about my life as some would call a "regular joe" and how it must differ from the life of a porn star. One aspect of my life that really stands out to me is Love - true Love, not just sex. As I read the interview, I began to wonder "Does Sara Jay have Love in her life?" I know you can't speak for all porn stars, but do you find it difficult to have a man in your life who you can genuinely love and have a relationship where that love is reciprocated to you? Does your occupation have any positive/negative effect on any other aspect(s) of your life? Also, I would like to know what initially goes through your mind when/if a guy approaches you. Do you think "This guy must want to get into my panties" or does he stand on neutral ground in your mind? I really hope to hear from you soon. Thanks for your time Sara!"


As he is correct, I cannot speak for all pornstars, only myself. Yes, it is possible to have Love in your life and still be in the adult industry. there are plenty of couples (like some we know) that do quite well in the porn biz. there are all different types of people out there having all different types of relationships. We get love, as humans, not just from that one special person in our lives, but also from friends and family. I feel that I have more love in my life than most. I live with 2 of the best parents that any one person could have and I have several monumentally important people in my life that reciprocate my love on a regular basis. I have an amazing, but small group of people who I know would do ANYTHING for me and vice versa. And they accept me for who I am, and really what more could you ask for? Now, would I be able to have a TRADITIONAL realtionship with one person while in the adult industry? Not really, but only because I have chosen not to live a TRADITIONAL life. As some of you know, nothing about me in TRADITIONAL!

My occupation has both positive and negative affects on a lot of aspects of my life....as do all of your jobs/careers. Regardless of what you do you are making an impression on whoever you are speaking to whether you are a garbage man, a lawyer, a nurse, a teacher, a pornstar....we all get preconceived notions about all of those occupations.

When I am first approached by a man what I assume his intentions are are based off of his words and actions. He basically stands on neutral ground until he opens his mouth, then things can go one way or the other, lol! I try not to prejudge anyone and give everyone a chance to show me their best side. But, I often am just not open to meeting guys, as I am never looking for anything serious! If I want some booty, I know where to get it! lol!!

xoxo,
Sara Jay
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Redd44
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January 14th, 2010, 4:17 pm

I loved reading your answer to this fan's e-mail Sara. Besides the fact that you are amazing to watch perform and have ball-draining sex appeal, you are also a real person with a real life. That's why I have been a fan of yours for so long...and will continue to be! :trophy
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vectis
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January 14th, 2010, 4:42 pm

An intelligent and articulate post Sara,what ever happened to the porn star streotype,we don't have any here.
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AussieSteve
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January 14th, 2010, 5:41 pm

Hi Sara, thanks for posting that email and your reply :clap Porn Stars are real people; of course all VNA members know that already :D
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dave45
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January 14th, 2010, 7:43 pm

Yea Steve your right they are real people, as we found out last fall when we meat Vicky and Sara. But we all know people who think otherwise. From jealousy (like my wife) religion, or whatever reason, but there that way.
There's more I want to say but I'm afrade I'd sound like a babbling country boy so I'll finish by saying.
OH WELL IT'S THERE LOSS SO !!!
Dave
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January 16th, 2010, 7:44 pm

Sara, you are an intelligent woman, right up there with the best of them. Any woman can get into porn, but it takes intelligence like yours to "make it."

Why do I love hanging out with Sara, Vicky, Sunny and all of the ladies I've met? Just for Sara's reason. They are real people. The ones I have met are intelligent, funny and great to hang out with. It is real easy to put your favorite star up on a pedestal. But it is the real thing to just accept them as people. Be courteous, be funny and DON'T be grabby.

I remember when I first found Sunny and Sara and Vicky and Deauxma on the net. I never even dreamed I would ever meet them. I just beat it like the rest of us, thinking, "I'm fucking you, baby." Going to meet VIcky was, to me, the most daring thing I have done. But I had read enough of her input on this forum that I felt like I all ready knew her. Older members will remember this was a few weeks before she met Rokkerr. Then, she made me feel so welcome, it just felt natural. We went to dinner, we went to breakfast, we went to the gym, She let me give her a ride home from the club. And then, by attending her members get-togethers, I met Sunny, Sara, Michelle and Deauxma. And that is the best fun I've had to date.

You folks want to have some fun? Save your sheikels and make it to LA in April. I know you are limited by time if you work, but, if you have the time and don't mind driving, you can usually make the trip for under $300. That's gas, lodging, food and fun. Hope to see you there.
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January 2nd, 2012, 1:03 am

Hi Sara how are u, I hope very good, pls!!! help me how can i get a signed photo of you? thats will make me very happy =)
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January 2nd, 2012, 3:43 pm

Sara :goodpost:
i find it great the someone as busy as Sara can share this with her members and i love seeing a well thought out and truly honest answer.

Thank You Sara

wsj689
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