My Mom

[ShandaFay]

Okay guys I have some bad news this week and man I can tell you it's been one hell of one!

My Mom was diagnosed with cervical cancer and we don't know what stage it is yet but as soon as we do I will let you all know. We are going to fight this hard and with every ounce of my being I will do everything to help her. I am really in shock and pretty upset right now....brain/spine/lung cancer took my Dad just in 2008 but we are dealing with an easier cancer they tell us!

We have some family coming up this weekend that's why I have had to cancel the show.

If anyone has any info on this type of cancer please let me know.

I want you all to know you are very important to me and my site is also and I will continue to work through this with my Mom but still provide you with great content!

thanks everyone ...see you next weekend

[WalterB]

ShandaFay, you know that we want you to take care of your Mom first. This is very difficult for you. We appreciate your updates, but family comes first. We will always be here for you. Please take care of your mom and keep us advised.

I've never had to deal with cancer, so know little about it, beyond what it generally is. I know that you can find out plenty by just googling it. So, please take care of your family, ShandaFay. We'll be here.

Prayers going up today.

[Gert-Jan]

Dear ShandaFay, I'm so sorry to hear this news. Our parents are the most important people in the world. They bring us into the world, they raise us, teach us things and learn us how to be independent, so we can start living our own life when we become an adult. Yet, the 'education' is never finished.

By getting older, we learn things ourselves, but we keep on learning from our dear mom as well. And when one of the most precious people gets diagnosed with the aweful disease cancer, in which form whatsoever, your day-to-day life collapses. From that moment on, everything you have been taught by that person isn't sufficient to find the right answer to respond to this. To cope with this. So I, we all, can totally understand that you're in shock and upset.

Walt said it right. It says alot about you that you want to keep us happy and satisfied and think/worry about updates on the site and/or keep the content for it coming. But this message you got, is far more important! Support eachother, stay strong, beat the cancer , and hopefully you, your mom and ofcourse the rest of the family will be getting lots of more happy moments to share with eachother. :)

I'm only 26 and no experiences with such a major disease, but I too wanted to let you know that my thoughts are with you and that I sincerely hope everything turns out well. :)

[danamend]

Take all the time you need Shanda. Family comes first. Sending best wishes & prayers to you & your Mom.

[h0rnytoad1]

So sorry to hear that sweetie, i hope she'll be ok, give her the best care you can, we love you and will have good thoughts for you and her.

[TheShaft]

Sorry to hear about it. People in my life have been affected by cancer. And of course family comes first so take as much time as you need.

[Monica]

Shanda I sort of know how you feel.
About 9 years ago I got a call from my hubby's doctor.
He told me that we needed to go to the hosital the very next day cause a test showed that he had skin cancer and they needed to remove some of the skin on his arm asap. And we was told there was a real risk of it spreading.
I was totally devastated, and I did handle this way worse than my hubby. I could not think, eat or sleep for several months.
But in the end it did work out for the best.
Just dont loose hope and take care of your family.
Always time for the other stuff later.

Love and kisses too you and yours
Monica

[rodd_dog]

Sorry to hear the bad news Shanda, and hopefully your mom has a really quick recovery. Best wishes

[WSJ689]

Sorry about the news Shanda my prayers are yours for you and your family.
take care of your mom first every thing else can wait.

wsj689

[fused85]

Hope your mother get well soon Shanda. You should not worried about updates and like Walt sayed family goes first.

[ShandaFay]

Wow you all really show your love and that means so much to me! Thank you Walt, GertJan, Ht, Dan, Golfshaft, Monica, Rodd_dog, Wsj689, fused85!

My Mom is the most important person in my life and I will be with her every step of the way and I will keep you all informed as we got through this. Monday we will find out a lot more info and go from there. it's weird when something like this happens so many emotions and your life really does change. I am the baby of the family so it is harder on me, I didn't have those extra years with my parents.....my Mom treats me like I am her little girl still.....lol she still fills my stocking at Christmas and Easter I always get something sweet! She is so cute!

Monica your so right sexy and I am really happy your hubby is okay!

thanks everyone and remember my site is my life too so I am not going anywhere don't worry about that!

the VNA group are the best of the best

[lilJebby]

ShandaFay, LOVE to you and your MOM!

Happy Easter.

"The spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in YOU"
~Romans 8:11a NLT

Jebby

[h0rnytoad1]

Shanda, my dad survived 2 cancers, colon and prostate. they do miracles these days.

oh that reminds me, children of parent who had cancer need to start getting tested 5 years before the 1st cancer was diagnosed.

Speaking of pegging, Jeb would you go in my place for the colonoscopy ? i think you'd enjoy it more than i would
and take a deep breath its almost over.

relax its only in like 10 years i think... you have time to ease into it

[AussieSteve]

Shanda Thinking of You & Best Wishes to your Mom at this difficult time

[LauraJebAndSue]

ShandaFay,

Hearing that any family member or friend has cancer is very devastating. Trio hearts and prayers go out to you and Mom.

The good news is that we have 3 friends that have survived and doing quite well after several years. Many do very well these days and getting the facts may help. Praying too!

Jebby called us and told us where to find some good sites to link to for you. He prays that there may be some comfort in some of this info. Hope that you found out by now or soon what stage your Mom is and that it is 0, IA or IB. Jebby has a Biology degree and says "No matter what, just don't freak out!" Rates are averages and so many beat the odds.

http://www.cancer.org/Cancer/CervicalCa ... r-survival

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cervical_cancer

http://womenscancercenter.com/info/types/cervix.html

Hugs to you, Mom, family, Nix and friends

Laura Jeb and Sue

[ShandaFay]

Thanks for the info Jebby I need all I can take in!

Ht I am so glad your dad is doing better he has been through a lot too!

Thanks Aussie Steve

So we went for a consult Monday and really it was just going over what the other doctor told us. But next week they are doing examinations tests and MRI so the week after we should know all we need to. My Dad's cancer was so much different because it was terminal so we just gave him the best quality of life we could and he did a few radiation treatments but if you ask me the painkillers took him away from us much sooner then the cancer did.

I hope this isn't to sad of a topic for you guys but it's my Mom and I just want to keep you informed of my things in my life.

[WalterB]

Please do keep us informed, ShandaFay. You are "our" girl and we care and we want to know.

[lilJebby]

ShandaFay, You must know that even though we have not met yet in person that you, family, pets even Nix are special people to me.

Hearing the "C" word always scares us particularly since the loss of your Dad. My Dad also died rather quickly from cancer.

Not cancer but a related scare. I had mini strokes while in remote Mexico last year and that scared the S _ IT out of me. Especially due to condition and medications when I could not get an erection for a couple weeks and cock shrinking. Talk about a wake up call for a man! Changed to a vegan diet and cholesterol dropped from 246 to 170 and LDL from 134 to 87 and both are still dropping WITHOUT Drugs. All should know those numbers. There are related issues to many cancers and other diseases to diet! Many with cancers have high fat diets. My Dad did! Get and read I feel much better even though I will be 62 in May. Erections are back up too which is proof to me that the diet works and maybe saved me. No stiff pricks and I go nuts, due drugs, drink and die!

Cervical cancer has a very high survival rate in this day and age. LJ&S Trio know several that have beat the odds and doing fine even after 10 years! Remember the numbers are just averages and many beat the odds particularly with diet changes.

Just know that my prayers and thoughts are with special lady you Mom, Grand Mom and family!

In the states where we still have Non-government healt care I can get a CD of my CT scans and MRI right afters scans. As a undergraduate Biology major I take CDs home and look at on my laptop. I get copies of all blood and other tests and look up what I don't remember on the Internet. Best to be very informed with notes of questions when you see the very busy Doctors.

If you need any more info or comfort PM me or e-mail L&S for my phone number and I will call you. HUGS!

Jebby

[BobbiEden]

Dear Shanda..

Im thinking of you .. and stay positive.,
Everyone here will understand that your in a difficult time and Mom goes first !

Send you some love and hugs and kisses and strength for both of you !!:)
love xxooxoxoxox

[crank]

Shanda,

I feel so bad for your mom and for you. This si never an easy thing to deal with , just know tha t my thoughts and prayers are with your mother and you.
Take whatever time and do what you need to, we'll all be here for you and give you our full support.

Best wishes,

Crank