Curious is there anyone else who swings?

[Drlameexcuse]

I've been swinging for the last few years and I love it I wonder if anyone else does the same thing.

[George B]

Not a swinger, eternally single myself, but here is an interesting thread if you feel like reading about a members experiences. The story starts with swinging but quickly developed into polyamory.

http://www.vettenationlive.com/members/ ... f=2&t=5535

[Drlameexcuse]

Interesting read I don't think I could go for all of that, my girl and I have rules in place. We've discussed many times when we do it, that it's just sex

[stickyvicky]

I totally agree with LameExcuse... so have you ever had a problem or fight, or jealousy issues that came up as a result of swinging? Has it really added to your life? Would you recommend it to others? Should you try it only after a couple of years of being together? How do you know when you are "solid" enough to do something like that?

[Drlameexcuse]

We eased into, the biggest thing is having that conversation and not being afraid to have the conversation. Put rules in place, and don't pressure your partner if they don't want to play then no playing. It can take a while even at parties who you want to play with. Sometimes just watching others or being watched is just as good.

[stickyvicky]

I like the "no pressure" approach. I used to swing with my late husband of years ago and he turned it into an awful experience. If he didn't get laid, he blamed me and screamed at me all the way home. It's your fault! That girl smiled at you and you didn't react! You did it on purpose cause you didn't want me to have any fun!

[Drlameexcuse]

I would never do that, that's not right no one should ever feel like shit for having sex or not wanting to have sex.

[stickyvicky]

It wasn't that I didn't want to... I could always have sex at the drop of a hat... it's just that I was really shy. It was way before I did porn. I was a different person back then. Very little self confidence, didn't think I was sexy enough or smart enough or that people would want to have sex with me... so I was afraid to approach people... I didn't think I was interesting enough that people would even want to talk to me... Things sure have changed.. lol... now I talk to everyone -even if they don't want to talk to me! lol...

[Drlameexcuse]

It wasn't that I didn't want to... I could always have sex at the drop of a hat... it's just that I was really shy. It was way before I did porn. I was a different person back then. Very little self confidence, didn't think I was sexy enough or smart enough or that people would want to have sex with me... so I was afraid to approach people... I didn't think I was interesting enough that people would even want to talk to me... Things sure have changed.. lol... now I talk to everyone -even if they don't want to talk to me! lol...

That's funny because my girl was so shy but then she started to loosen up. It started to make her feel sexy because it had other people wanting her as well and she had never really know that feeling.

[EmilyRain]

It wasn't that I didn't want to... I could always have sex at the drop of a hat... it's just that I was really shy. It was way before I did porn. I was a different person back then. Very little self confidence, didn't think I was sexy enough or smart enough or that people would want to have sex with me... so I was afraid to approach people... I didn't think I was interesting enough that people would even want to talk to me... Things sure have changed.. lol... now I talk to everyone -even if they don't want to talk to me! lol...

This sounds so familiar ....