stickyvicky wrote: I don't have a problem with being a sex object, in fact I love it! I want to be a sex object, it is the reason our business is successful! I just went for a run today and in my sweatpants and tshirt some guys drove by in a truck and whistled and hollered at me. It made me feel good! When I hear guys say "I would fuck the shit out of her, or call me a cumslut or fuckdoll or whatever, I'm not offended. It's ok, it's what I do for a living and I love it. It's men being men, boys being boys. Men are horny all the time, and thank goodness they are! Lucky for me! So as you can see the "locker room talk" is not the issue at all.
When I went to Exxxotica last November, there was this fan (elderly man) who I was posing for pictures with, and he tried to forcibly stick his finger in my vagina during the photo. I had stopped him twice already, and asked him politely "please don't do that", I told him he could hold my waist, hips, or hold my boobs, I'm fine with all that. The 3rd time he tried it he was so fast, before I knew it he had his hands and fingers through my fishnet stockings and inside my underwear, trying to finger me. I freaked - I screamed in his face! Rokkerr told him to leave immediately or we would be calling security. He left. I was so upset that I shut down my booth for 2 hours, and went to cool off. I was so furious I was shaking and almost cried.
The way that man made me feel was, I have no rights, anyone can walk up to me and finger me at any time, I have no say in the matter, it's a total invasion of my privacy, even though I said NO twice, he ignored me and did what he wanted. I did feel violated.
When I hear Donald Trump talk that way, it makes me feel the exact same way that man made me feel. It makes me furious. (I'll bet that guy was a Trump supporter, lol) Trump believes that women have no rights, that he can do anything he wants to them. They are not allowed to have their own thoughts or own opinions and own desires. Maybe I don't want to be grabbed by the pussy? Does Donald think that he could grab me by the pussy any time he wanted because I'm in porn? He basically said that to Jessica Drake. His answer to the news reporters was verbatim: "So what, she's in porn, it's not like she has never been grabbed by the pussy before". So basically he is saying that Jessica has less rights than anyone else because she is in the sex industry. I take serious offense to that.
Catalina, do you understand what I am saying? If Donald Trump said I was hot, and he wanted to stretch my ass with his big dick and cum all over my face and make me look like a glazed donut, I would not be offended. It's his notion that I don't have a choice in the matter that I oppose. I hope I explained it well.
I want to take this beyond Trumpster and speak to the prevailing attitude of the Exxxotica assailant (and yes, that was an act of sexual assault he did to her) that all too often reverbiates within the brains of many "fans" of porn. (I use the air quotes because genuine fans know how to respect the boundaries and wishes of the subjects of their desires.)
Being a long time "slut goddess worshipper" myself, I am one of many who admire women like Vicky and the rest of the girls/women here who give up considerable time and privacy to present themselves as unabashedly and unapologetically sexual beings. It's that admiration that also fuels my respect for them such that I simply cannot think of disrespecting and tarnishing that desire by ignoring their set limits.
Way too often, though, there are men (and some women, too) who on occasion get so overwhelmed by the blood rushing to their dicks (and clits) that their brains lose their ability to filter their words or actions. Usually, it's merely blurting out the wrong words at the wrong place at the wrong time; this is, as Vicky noted, perfectly natural and usually no harm, no foul, just be more careful.
What I've beginning to see more of is the increasing prevailence of a more corrosive breed of "porn fan"; one who doesn't see porn women as sexual artists or sexual athletes, but rather as scapegoats for their own rejection and denial of his/her own desires. To this kind of "fan", a woman doing sex/porn is merely a "whore" or a "slut" who "degrades" herself just to make money; and therefore less of a true human being than "real women". In his mind, since she is such a "slut" to engage in sex outside of his narrow-minded view of acceptable sexuality, she can be approached and insulted.....and open to be both mentally and physically assaulted. The basic attitude is "She fucks and sucks everyone else; I should be able to fuck her too." This kind of "fan" also does not take gentle notions of "No, thank you" or even "Back off, fool" too kindly; at its worst, it can lead to behaviors like stalking and even the kind of direct assault that Vicky experienced.
Keep in mind that 99.9% of most porn fans are respectful, if sometimes a bit overzealous with their horniness, of their favorite porn goddess' wishes; and that "sex smack" does have its place within particular venues and boundaries negotiated and approved by the woman and her suitors. But it only takes one asshole overstepping his limits to seriously ruin a good experience for the rest. It's up to us decent pervert fans who love Vicky and the others for what they do (and who they do, too), to screen out and bust out the ingrates and haters whenever and whereever they show up.
And BTW, I happen to love and worship both sluts and whores, so I respect their humanity as much as I would any woman. I just can't hate on beautiful women who accept men like me when we tell and show them that they make us cum. And, are so willing to show so much of their sexual selves to us.
Forgive or ignore this if you wish....or comment at will. Just had to release some...steam.
