Rant of the day!! - no apologies needed.

[stickyvicky]

Well said! I concur!

[PeterL22]

Completely different theme, but one that many people have mentioned in the past - packaging!
I am not an Eco-Warrior - so its not about harming the planet (cos when people talk about what's going to happen in 2050, I jus think "well I won't be here to see that").
Everything comes in either shrink-wrap - that horrible vacuum wrap that is so tight to the food (or whatever) that you need scissors to get in - and then you jab scissors into content of packaging!!!
Or even worse that harder plastic stuff that comes around house wear and some smaller electric gadgets - the stuff that's impossible to tear (even after you have used a pointed object to jab a hole in it - and your hand at the same time). What's wrong with a simple box which can be safely opened!?!?

I hate it!

[hennar2017]

I don't know if this is a rant or more of an observation but here goes. Do you like the direction the VNA is going? I know it is a porn site but it seems as if it is not being run the same or that it is a nice "clean" porn site. I don't know if I am explaining it right but that is part of my feelings.

[DKPaine13]

I don't know if this is a rant or more of an observation but here goes. Do you like the direction the VNA is going? I know it is a porn site but it seems as if it is not being run the same or that it is a nice "clean" porn site. I don't know if I am explaining it right but that is part of my feelings.

I'm still brand new, so I can't offer any informed assessment of the direction of the site. What I can say is that I joined at a time when things in my own personal life were as bad as they've ever been, and the warm welcome I've felt from folks here - both performers and members - has helped me through some very rough days. Again, no basis for comparison with the "good old days". I only know the site as it's been for the last month or so. But I have tried out other sites in that time and found them to be impersonal, poorly organized, managed with minimal effort or concern for the members, and severely lacking in content by comparison. So from that respect, I'd say this is still the best site around. And as far as it not being the "clean" porn site it once was, I assume that as ladies come & go and members come & go, there will be changes in the specific nature of the various sister sites & cam shows, as well as folks who've been doing this a while trying new things just to keep it fresh and different.

That's just my take. Like I say, I'm a newbie, so I don't mean to speak out of turn.

[DKPaine13]

No apologies, huh? Ok. Here's a rant I won't apologize for.

I'm a fucking idiot. I'm so vulnerable and screwed up right now (a few of you know why, most don't) that I let myself do something REALLY FUCKING STUPID tonight that I absolutely know better than to ever do. I just wanted to feel alright & alive again so badly that I threw a lifetime of experience & accumulated good sense right out the fucking window and did what I felt like doing right at that moment, even as my brain was screaming at me not to do it. Now in the end, I'm the only one who will suffer for it, and if I'm very, very lucky, that suffering won't be too bad or last too long. But when you're reeling & you don't have that guiding force in your life that used to keep you grounded & clear-headed, every mistake feels 1000 times more moronic and foolish than it would have before, even if there are no long-term consequences. I know I'm being deliberately vague here, but nobody on this forum really knows me anyway, and the point isn't really what I did. The point is that I'm so fucking lost that I would even consider doing it in the first place. I know I need some counseling, and a whole lot more time to heal before I'll be able to make mistakes and not feel like a total disaster of a human being. But tonight, I just needed to let loose some of this anger and frustration and contempt for myself in a relatively safe place, and believe it or not, this site is as safe as it gets for me these days.

Not a rant so much as a meltdown/confession, I know. But again, no apologies. Thanks for hearing me, VNA.

[hennar2017]

Oh you are not speaking out of turn DK. I just wonder if things are going in the wrong direction. I can't explain it myself let alone trying to explain it to anyone else. lol I do like this site a lot so will just hang in there and see how it goes.
Hennar or Henna608

[hennar2017]

No apologies, huh? Ok. Here's a rant I won't apologize for.

I'm a fucking idiot. I'm so vulnerable and screwed up right now (a few of you know why, most don't) that I let myself do something REALLY FUCKING STUPID tonight that I absolutely know better than to ever do. I just wanted to feel alright & alive again so badly that I threw a lifetime of experience & accumulated good sense right out the fucking window and did what I felt like doing right at that moment, even as my brain was screaming at me not to do it. Now in the end, I'm the only one who will suffer for it, and if I'm very, very lucky, that suffering won't be too bad or last too long. But when you're reeling & you don't have that guiding force in your life that used to keep you grounded & clear-headed, every mistake feels 1000 times more moronic and foolish than it would have before, even if there are no long-term consequences. I know I'm being deliberately vague here, but nobody on this forum really knows me anyway, and the point isn't really what I did. The point is that I'm so fucking lost that I would even consider doing it in the first place. I know I need some counseling, and a whole lot more time to heal before I'll be able to make mistakes and not feel like a total disaster of a human being. But tonight, I just needed to let loose some of this anger and frustration and contempt for myself in a relatively safe place, and believe it or not, this site is as safe as it gets for me these days.

Not a rant so much as a meltdown/confession, I know. But again, no apologies. Thanks for hearing me, VNA.

Was it on cam DK? We all do dumb things. You are not the first and will not be the last! Just don't dwell on it, ok? What's done is done so just move forwards. Good luck.

[PeterL22]

No apologies, huh? Ok. Here's a rant I won't apologize for.

I'm a fucking idiot. I'm so vulnerable and screwed up right now (a few of you know why, most don't) that I let myself do something REALLY FUCKING STUPID tonight that I absolutely know better than to ever do. I just wanted to feel alright & alive again so badly that I threw a lifetime of experience & accumulated good sense right out the fucking window and did what I felt like doing right at that moment, even as my brain was screaming at me not to do it. Now in the end, I'm the only one who will suffer for it, and if I'm very, very lucky, that suffering won't be too bad or last too long. But when you're reeling & you don't have that guiding force in your life that used to keep you grounded & clear-headed, every mistake feels 1000 times more moronic and foolish than it would have before, even if there are no long-term consequences. I know I'm being deliberately vague here, but nobody on this forum really knows me anyway, and the point isn't really what I did. The point is that I'm so fucking lost that I would even consider doing it in the first place. I know I need some counseling, and a whole lot more time to heal before I'll be able to make mistakes and not feel like a total disaster of a human being. But tonight, I just needed to let loose some of this anger and frustration and contempt for myself in a relatively safe place, and believe it or not, this site is as safe as it gets for me these days.

Not a rant so much as a meltdown/confession, I know. But again, no apologies. Thanks for hearing me, VNA.

DK - we ALL do things that we afterwards feel are stupid and regret. Firstly, more often and not they aren't really as bad as we think, and other people don't see them the same way we do.
Secondly, Don't beat yourself up about whatever it was - if it was bad enough others will do that for you, if they don't then I guess the above applies, and you shouldn't give yourself so hard a time!
Supposing its something that it really is something you shouldn't have done, the best you can do for yourself AND others you may have offended, is to realise the error (which you seem to have done) and reflect on it and decide if you need to change - if so fine!
You are right - I don't really know you apart from the posts here and when we are both in the same room for a show, but I haven't seen anything that annoys me or makes me feel you are a bad person!

[DKPaine13]

Thanks, henna & Peter. Hopefully, it was just a moment of stupidity & a lesson learned.

[stickyvicky]

Worry and guilt are useless emotions Paine. Just learn as much as you can from it and move on. Chalk it up to experience, file it away, and don't do it again! lol...

As for Henna, I have no idea what you are talking about? "The direction of the VNA"? The direction is to grow and make a fun sexy community of like minded people, who hang out online, and who even hang out in person once in a while at conventions and events. In the beginning we used to have more member get-togethers, we went rollerblading and bicycling, we went skiing one time, and we all did an Aids Walk together, in addition to all the porn conventions and shows. We need to bring those back.

We just got crazy busy. Do you realize in the last year we added 8 sites? Last October added Kimber Lee, December added Lauren Phillips, April added All Anal, May added Fucked Feet, July added Nina Kayy, Aug added Rome Major and Blown By Rone, Sept added Cristi Ann Live. All while keeping the cam system going, keeping the girls showing up for their shows, updating the sites with content, doing everyone's press, etc etc etc... We have about 5 or 6 more sites to add in the next few months also. What am I missing? What is wrong with the direction? Do u mean u don't like the content the girls are shooting? Or that I am shooting? You joined Julia's site right? Are u still happy with her site?

[DKPaine13]

Worry and guilt are useless emotions Paine. Just learn as much as you can from it and move on. Chalk it up to experience, file it away, and don't do it again! lol...

Good advice, as long as I haven't already done any irreparable damage. I used to have someone who was really good at getting me through times of extreme worry or guilt. Now I'm having to learn how to cope with that shit on my own. But believe it or not, having some new, very wise friends here on VNA is helping.

Also worth noting here that if I'd stuck around for all of your cam show last night instead of cutting out early to go do that thing I'm beating myself up for now, I probably wouldn't have done it at all. So the lesson is, stick with Vicky.

[hotjulie]

I waited for all the smart ones to comment before I said what I thought of Hennas rant or whatever you call it. Personally I treat everything on here like a buffet, I know what I like and go there often, trying something new then deciding if I want more.

As for the direction, I trust Vicky and Rokkerr in their judgements. I've been here a while now and they always put us members first. That's why the loyalty to them is unwavering from us. I'm not going to say anymore as my mouth can get me in trouble, just trust them, if they screw up, they fix things. They've even fixed up members that are insane, take Walt for example: his posts used to be really long, now he's down to 20,000 words per post

Thank you Vicky and Rokkerr for everything you do

[PeterL22]

I waited for all the smart ones to comment before I said what I thought of Hennas rant or whatever you call it. Personally I treat everything on here like a buffet, I know what I like and go there often, trying something new then deciding if I want more.

As for the direction, I trust Vicky and Rokkerr in their judgements. I've been here a while now and they always put us members first. That's why the loyalty to them is unwavering from us. I'm not going to say anymore as my mouth can get me in trouble, just trust them, if they screw up, they fix things. They've even fixed up members that are insane, take Walt for example: his posts used to be really long, now he's down to 20,000 words per post

Thank you Vicky and Rokkerr for everything you do

Now then young Julie! - I take issue with you saying you let the smart ones comment first - you must be the smart one not to just jump in!

[rokkerr]

I don't know if this is a rant or more of an observation but here goes. Do you like the direction the VNA is going? I know it is a porn site but it seems as if it is not being run the same or that it is a nice "clean" porn site. I don't know if I am explaining it right but that is part of my feelings.

... there needs to be more anal...

[rokkerr]

To all those who like Mary Poppins style porn... just remember... even Julie "The Hills Are Alive With The Sound of Music" Andrews got topless....

[George B]

Mary Poppins style porn...

Spoonful of semen helps the medicine go down?

[hennar2017]

I don't know if this is a rant or more of an observation but here goes. Do you like the direction the VNA is going? I know it is a porn site but it seems as if it is not being run the same or that it is a nice "clean" porn site. I don't know if I am explaining it right but that is part of my feelings.

... there needs to be more anal...

This is not so funny! I'm just saying!

[PeterL22]

Mary Poppins style porn...

Spoonful of semen helps the medicine go down?

Wasn't there a famous lesbian scene in the Director's cut with Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke?

[hennar2017]

Now how can that be a lesbian seen Peter if it involved Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke? lmao

[PeterL22]

tip toe , tip toe - BEHIND YOU Henna!!!
Please allow an old man his fantasies!!
I guess if it was Dick Van Dyke - it would be a lesbian with a strap-on!!