I don't really get JOI either. I all ready know how,
Yes, I do understand it and, yes, it can be quite sensual and exciting. I'm just mostly weird, lol.
Agreed, when I'm watching a clip, there is usually something pretty specific I like or am looking for in a clip. And, yes, it is usually something about the woman, and it will about 80% be B/G. BBG would be second and on down the road from there. I don't know about other guys, either (we don't discuss this a lot down at the pub, lol,) but, yes, Liz. When I watch a clip, I'm the guy. It's the woman that excites me, and 'I want her.' So, it's me in the clip doing the poor girl.
And if Joe Blow watches the clip, I'm betting that it's Joe Blow IN the clip.
Men are visual. We are attracted by beauty. We worry about the other stuff after we find out of she's a good fuck. In todays world, that seems to be the big thing - 'Let's go fuck. If that works out, maybe we can go further." Truth is, of course, it's always been that way. Like I said - men are visual. Women (you know more than me about this, lol) are more into aesthetics, I think it is. Women like a man or other partner for a sense of humor, for security, for intelligence, for any number of things. And I'm sure that good-looking is in there somewhere, but it's not necessarily at the top of the list. For men? Beauty is #1, lol.
So it makes sense to me that women look at clips differently than men. I never really thought about it, but I'm guessing that I always figured that women watching porn would be wrapped up in the guy. You know - "sure wish that was me he was pounding."
JOI for women? I don't recall seeing any specifically, but I have to believe they're out there. Just Google Female JOI or Lesbian JOI and see what comes up. I would suggest using Microsoft Edge with Safe Search turned off. I use Chrome but am consistently astounded by the massive amount of good stuff that comes up when I do a search on Edge. (Plus, if I use Edge for my porn, it keeps my porn out of Google, where all my other stuff is, lol.)
And finally, a Countdown? I usually just aim for a take-off point. When I get close, I don't like to wait. So, if the model is giving a countdown "10 (wait, wait, wait) 9 (wait, wait, wait) 8 (wait, wait, wait).... I get impatient. I've dealt with rocket launches, so I just think "Oh, come on, dear, 7654321BINGO!"