Sexual tastes, kinks & fetishes - yes I’m kinda outing myself...

[CaptBunk]

LOL
Where do I begin???
My Wife of 40 plus years floored me about 2 years ago when she wanted to be spanked, tied up, and blindfolded. That led to research on BDSM, which led to a Dom/sub relationship. We were not long into it when the pandemic hit allowing us to do more "hands on" research .
Imagine; a 65 year old man and 67 year old woman whose sex life had been very vanilla discovering BDSM. I never thought I would be telling her to go play with herself because I was going to sleep, . I feel like I have fallen in love again.
The sex is not all that has improved. We made a big move last year and relocated because of a family situation. It has gone much smoother due to principles learned through BDSM.
I feel like I am rambling but it feels good to share this with somebody. Any suggestions are welcome.

"When all is said and done more will be said than ever done,"

[stickyvicky]

That is a fascinating story! Can you elaborate on the "principles learned through bdsm" and how that relates to every day life?

[lance_s]

That is a fascinating story! Can you elaborate on the "principles learned through bdsm" and how that relates to every day life?

Who's in control in a D/s relationship - is it the Dom(me) because (s)he is the one giving orders? Or is it actually the sub, because until and unless the sub gives control to the Dom(me), there would be no D/s relationship?

Remember we're limiting this to consensual relationships, not coercion or intimidation.

[WalterB]

Even Bondage is still a two-way street. If she is telling you what she wants/likes, go with that. She will love it more and guess who will benefit. (That would be you.)

[lance_s]

Even Bondage is still a two-way street. If she is telling you what she wants/likes, go with that. She will love it more and guess who will benefit. (That would be you.)

Shibari is interesting as an art form, but I don't find it erotic.

[Matty77]

Good thread.

I have an interest in being restrained and have a little experience in it.

Any sex game where the male has to resist climaxing or giving in to his sexual desires always appeals to me - I love the idea of the immense sexual attractive power that women are capable of.

Earlier this year I wrote a short book which I'll share a link to (pdf) containing a few such fictional stories - I think you'll understand my fetish if you read it.....

The book is available elsewhere for sale but I'll leave a free copy of it here for you if you're interested:

https://mattiesgames.com/assets/teases.pdf

[stickyvicky]

Omg thats amazing! Thank you so much! I will download that!

[lance_s]

Good thread.

I have an interest in being restrained and have a little experience in it.

Any sex game where the male has to resist climaxing or giving in to his sexual desires always appeals to me - I love the idea of the immense sexual attractive power that women are capable of.

Earlier this year I wrote a short book which I'll share a link to (pdf) containing a few such fictional stories - I think you'll understand my fetish if you read it.....

The book is available elsewhere for sale but I'll leave a free copy of it here for you if you're interested:

https://mattiesgames.com/assets/teases.pdf

Thanks. I've downloaded copy. Looking forward to reading it.

[UncleDave]

I shot a little selfie video here in my office the other day, using common office items to create bondage..... lol.. Gawd! The older I get the kinkier I get!

I get it. As I get older some of the old fears fade away. I wouldn't want to be with a guy but some transvestites are damn sexy. Id enjoy that but would like a woman with us. I love eating pussy and ass. Could do it all day. I also will lick them clean after cumming in them. Only mine not some one else. When getting a blowjob, I love having a finger up my ass rubbing my prostrate. I'd like a women to dominate me and treat me like crap but also let me please here by doing whatever she wanted. I've had a dildo up my ass while fucking pussy so I guess if she was hot and sexy, I'd let her peg me. Nothing too big lol. So really as I get older, there's not much I wouldn't do or try.

Now, where to find a sexy, hot woman who would be into all this?

[Matty77]

As someone without a partner most of the time most of my 'play time' is spent coming up with various games to play in my masturbation sessions. One that I enjoy doing is a kind of resistance game.

Equipment:
Two scarves and a computer chair with arm rests that the scarves can tie my arms to.

Setup a playlist on my pc of some videos downloaded from here or do this during a live show from one of the performers and watch while tied up....game is over when I 'lose' by untying and giving in to touching myself.

It's variable how long it takes before I fail....depending on my own mood it can be anywhere from 6 minutes to 96 minutes.....but either way it's good fun.

[stickyvicky]

I would like to see you doing that on my Cam show tonight at 5 PM? The question is, if you are tied up how do you untie yourself?

[Matty77]

Untying is easy...slide hands out...bit of a wriggle...but it's not too easy.

I just played a game and "lost" an hour ago...if I've recharged by the time your show is on I'll see what I can do.

[stickyvicky]

You have plenty of time! My show is like 7 hours from now!

[Matty77]

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Haha....challenge accepted:

[UncleDave]

Untying is easy...slide hands out...bit of a wriggle...but it's not too easy.

I just played a game and "lost" an hour ago...if I've recharged by the time your show is on I'll see what I can do.

Do you give yourself a "safe" word?