February 11th, 2022, 1:50 pm
Well, Matty, as usual, I wrote you a book, lol. Hope you can wade thru it.
By the time you've spent 79 years on this ball of dirt, if you're lucky, you learn a few things. One thing I've learned is that, basically, we are all alike. Stop and think for a second. Using America as an example, if there are 300 million people in this country, then there are 300 MILLION worlds. The world and life appears differently to all of us, but we all act the same. Some want to become policemen, some want to be firemen, some want to be politicians, some want to go to church and some want to be sex workers.
I grew up in what I would now call a pretty protected environment. I'm sure all of the problems that occur in todays world were happening in 1950 as well. The difference was that there was no technology. About all we had were our TV and our newspapers. Since the computers and then smart phones came along, if someone gets shot in New York, we hear about it within the hour. The internet has given a voice to everyone. But it didn't bring intelligence with it. Technology has also brought a medium where every person anywhere can spout their ideas and wishes, no matter how weird or off center or how far out in left field they may be. Some ideas, some wishes are valid and commendable. But that damn undercurrent of people who seem to be lacking in intelligence has become very large part of our lives. The Jan 6th issue is one. They reveal that those folks who attacked the capital first organized it on line. They spread their hate and anger on the internet, then weak-minded people saw it and thought, "Cool. Let's go bomb the White House."
What all of this means is that now, everyone with an agenda has a mouthpiece. Now, that is not necessarily bad. But to handle it all, you have to keep a firm belief on your own intelligence. I have come to realize that we are al alike. A policeman is not some sort of demigod. A policeman is someone who wants to help keep things under control, who wants to stop the criminality and to protect the rest of us. Yes, there are bad cops. But there are MANY more good cops, good and decent people trying to make a difference in a difficult world. And the same thing applies to the sex industry.
So, now to answer your question. Sex workers (porn models, prostitutes and everyone else) are all just like us. They are people who wash their clothes, they fix dinner, they go shopping. There are good ones there are bad ones, there are those who are full of themselves, there are those whose whole intent is to share their world with others because they realize that they have a lot to offer, Vicky, lol.
Sex workers get sick. They travel on airplanes. Are you sure you've never traveled on an airplane with a porn model? Of course not. The point is, they are people just like the rest of us. Some are pretty fantastic people. Some are assholes. The thing is that the rest of us have a strong interest in sex and no girlfriends, lol. So we turn to porn. Personally, I think that we should be thankful that so many of these lovely ladies want to share themselves with the world. There are many people out there who like to share their lives. kids, youth, young adults and old adults. But somehow sex is different.
My belief is that all of the reasons you suggested are real. You mentioned abuse, you mentioned drugs. There are many others, there could be financial issues. Probably a lot of young women see this and say "Gee, if I show my bod on the internet, I can get rich." So, Matty, there are a lot of reasons that women get into sex work. Yes, some even because they like it, They are good and decent people who act for no other reason except they can, and they enjoy it. I have no doubt at all that many of the ladies in porn get off on the simple excitement of knowing that others are watching them have sex. I mean, you see women out in public all the time that make you think, "DAMN! I sure would love to wrestle with that beauty for a couple hours." So you go home, call up your favorite star on your computer and then you do what comes naturally. People who yell and scream about sex workers also go home and have sex with whomever. So I just don't pay attention to them.
Sex workers are like you and I. There are good, and there are bad. Here you have latched onto a group of GOOD people. I've been here 15 years now. I've been to numerous conventions in L.A., Las Vegas, Dallas and Chicago, and have shared many fun and exciting times with these ladies..And I've loved every bit of it. I have pictures to prove all of it. And I have memories I wouldn't trade. I have met some fantastic people who have become friends, pretty close friends, actually. Do I have sex with them? Of course not. When a sex worker is doing something, she is doing her job. It does NOT mean that she is out there fucking anything in pants. And you shouldn't expect that. If something works out? You're living one of your fantasies. If nothing happens? That is perfectly all right. The ladies I have met are all decent and wonderful people. Some have even surprised me. When I start thinking, "She isn't all that excited by me," I figure that's just fine. But then somewhere down the road, they'll do something, say something that really knocks me back and I realize that all is well. If you are good and decent to the ladies, they will be good and decent people right back at you. And you will make a friend. All you have to do is be yourself. Talk to a porn model like you would anyone else. When you meet a porn model, don't tell her, "You sure have a pretty pussy." (yes, there are people who will do that.) Tell her, "I really like your work. I appreciate what you do for us." They will be so much more attracted to you than example 1.
So, to end this? Don't worry about it, Matty. I grew up going to Church. I grew up in a very sanitary world. My parents were "middle-America," Bible Belt people who weren't fanatics about anything, they very simply knew right from wrong and good from bad. I can't remember when I first started paying attention to porn. It was slow, I know. But here I am, a moderator and member of one of the premier porn sites on the internet. But, if my parents were here? I'd hide it from them.
Sex is good, and sex workers are GREAT. If they want to show you their naked bodies? If they want you to watch them fuck? Be thankful and be confident that the lady you are watching is doing what she wants. No one is forced into porn at gunpoint. So stand up for the models you like. Tell them you appreciate what they do. Tell them they excite you. Let them know. They want reassurance as well as we all do. So give them that, without hesitation.
And who knows, someday, you might even make a friend you wouldn't trade the world for.
I can resist everything except temptation.
